Living & Learning While Wedding Planning


I'm sure I'll be chocked full of wisdom after the wedding is said and done, but I felt compelled to share some nuggets of knowledge as I'm knee deep in the process. Here are five major realizations I've had to date.

1. Things will change.

Our date did, then our entire venue did. It's unsettling to think that nothing is really set in stone until the day arrives, but I've found it to be true more than once already. To cast a better light on this truth, I will say that these big changes have certainly been for the best. You learn as you go, so it's important to remain flexible so you can feel confident that your choices fit the bigger picture as you move forward.

2. There is no guidebook.

The amount of checklists and said "bride guides" out there are enough to give anyone planning paralysis. While there is helpful information to heed, no two weddings are alike, therefore no universal instruction manual exists. Its unique nature is actually the inherent beauty of a couple's wedding weekend, so I'm trying to embrace this mindset throughout our engagement.

3. It's a timestamp on your life.

My best friend (and now matron-of-honor) gave me this piece of advice with respect to the guest list, but I think it holds true for all aspects of planning. Some of your decisions will inevitably feel dated when you look back, but that's the way it's supposed to be. Recognize this is a timestamp on your life, and you will love reliving every detail--from the dress to the guests you chose--when years have passed.

4. Put yourselves in guests' shoes.

We've been to our fair share of weddings (especially as of late), so whenever I felt stuck on a decision, I tried to recall my sentiments as a guest. This helped me realize that while daylight is nice at a reception, a dance floor really gets going once night falls. I was also reminded that with a clutch in one hand and a cocktail in another, I rarely have the opportunity to reach for hors doeuvres, so it may be best to prioritize a great bar and buffet. 

5. Enjoy it while it lasts.

As I've seen with several significant stages of my life, your engagement season flies by. Enjoy it while it lasts! Marriage is forever, and of course, each season is different and wonderful, but there is nothing quite like this bridge between dating and marriage. You're literally showered with love and can finally visualize your future together.

For all my brides-to-be, I wish you the very, very best! I'll get into more nitty-gritty planning tips once the day unfolds and details of #MollyMadeASlamDunc are revealed :)